The past
cannot be undone. What you change is how you feel about it.
Make The Change
Happen
How are you going
to do it, my friend? You're all done feeling wretched all the time, you know
forgive does not mean forget, you are soooo ready, but you need a plan. Read
on, my friend, and find out how to get the benefits of forgiveness for
yourself. Right now.
Guilt and Hatred
Are Killers
Ask any doctor.
Stress is a killer. This is because your body and mind are a continuum. In
other words, although they are not entirely the same, a great overlap exists
that unites them. Relieve your mental stress and your body will be happier
too. Nothing relieves mental stress like forgiveness. Guilt and hatred resolve
nothing; they just sustain the negativity that continues to obstruct you from
your goals. Forgiveness, on the other hand, undoes the stickiness that binds
you to an unhappy past.
Does It Work?
Absolutely - for
you. Since the forgiveness experience will happen only for you, only you will
receive its benefits. Your forgiveness may not influence a change in the
behavior of others one bit. But it's not about them. It's about you.
Forgiveness is about generating your own healing. You are the only player in
your life over whom you have all the power. It's time to exercise your
personal power, your right to choose to feel better about who you are, your
right to process your past and move on with your life.
It's a Private
Thing
Since forgiving is
all about you getting your own heart clear, it's best done in the privacy of
your own mind. Afterwards you'll have the choice of telling others, if you
like, but initially the process works best in solitude. Tell no one, just do
the work. And watch how easy it is to feel better all day every day. Contrast
this to the fact that all the pity parties in the world with your friends and
relatives never made you feel better one bit. Those tactics don't work because
they don't process emotions, they merely create a feedback loop that deepens
the groove of the pain. Since you know that what you used to do didn't work,
it's time to do what does.
Forgive in Steps
Like a pyramid,
forgiveness may seem overwhelming at first, but it's easily accomplished step
by step. So begin by recognizing that there are three sections:
And these can be
further broken down into nicely manageable chunks.
Forgiveness of
Others
When you forgive
others in categories, it proceeds more easily. For example, you could choose
to use the categories of Strangers, Friends, Family, The People who Hurt You
The Most, and Anybody Else. You may include additional categories like
Exlovers, Neighbors, Coworkers, Employees, etc., and some forgivers need to
add the category of Humanity Itself. And you can start with the categories you
find easiest. Once you notice how good it feels to forgive, this will inspire
you to forgive everyone as much as possible, as fully as
you can.
Self Forgiveness
In this step, start
with your earliest years and ascend: Newborn, three year old, five year old,
ten year old, teenager, 20s, etc., and on up to your current age, forgiving
yourself thoroughly for absolutely everything as you go. Once you get to your
current age, forgive yourself for your whole life. Remember, all humans are
flawed. No one is a perfect son or daughter, man or woman, husband or wife,
student or teacher, worker or boss. You are allowed to make mistakes and learn
from them. Forgiveness is an optimal method to process your learnings.
Receiving
Forgiveness from Others
In the privacy of
your own mind, visualize then apologize to folks you've wronged, and let them
accept your apology. It may surprise you to learn that others really want to
forgive you. They do. So let them forgive you and receive the cleansing of
that forgiveness. Afterwards, with some people, you may elect to actually
apologize to them in person, but proceed carefully. There are a few folks in
the world who can not accept apologies in real life, and this is why you
process all of your apologies in your mind's eye thoroughly first, so that you
get the emotional benefit of having apologized whether those apologies get
accepted in real life or not.
Forgive by
Percentages in Repeated Attempts
Can you forgive the
people who hurt you the most 10%? 20%? 80%? 99.9%? It's not all or nothing.
Ease on up to higher and higher percentages, always aiming for 100%
forgiveness, but being real with yourself. If the people who hurt you the most
are not 100% forgiveable on your first attempt, continue forgiving them bit by
bit till you get as close to full forgiveness as possible. Start with a
realistic percentage, then increase your forgiveness on subsequent attempts,
always aiming for 100%. Just do your best.
Forgiving People
Versus Events
It can be one thing
to forgive individual people, and can yet be quite another thing to forgive
the things those people did. What to do? Forgive the events and actions as
they come to mind. As you think of instance after instance, forgive everyone
involved as best you can for everything that happened.
Is There An
Easier Way?
Yes, there is an
easier way. "The Forgiveness Pyramid" CD takes you through all the steps in
under an hour. Using emotive visualization, you'll be able to have the full
forgiveness experience privately, in your own time, in your own home. You are
unique, and may find that some steps in the "Forgiveness Pyramid" require
repeated listenings for full relief. And full relief is what you want. Buy the
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Michelle Beaudry,
board certified hypnotist, lives in Central Florida, and takes clients by
phone from all over the world. She wrote and narrated "The Forgiveness
Pyramid" for Success Enterprises online
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This CD makes no medical or psychological claims and is not to be used as a
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